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ACCOUNTABILITY

“Love is nothing without action
Trust is nothing without proof
Sorry is nothing without change” - Dalai Lama

Compassion focused therapy helps to identify the struggle without judgement and encourages accountability of action to compassionately respond to the situation.

Meeting ourselves without judgement in the therapy room allows us to listen deeply and whole heartedly within to what we know to be true - our love is lacking if there is no action, our truth is incomplete without proof of action and our sorry is meaningless without obvious change.

Therapy assists awareness … what changes with that awareness rests on accountability and a willingness to change.

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FITNESS
I have always loved a fitness tracker, the nod of well done as I reached my step count or hours slept, the satisfaction I got from staying on top, from maintaining consistency and discipline when my fluctuating mood has encouraged me otherwise.

Yep, my fitness tracker and I have always got on .. until that is, I started to fail on every level. Last Christmas I got a particularly bad dose and couldn’t sleep, move or function at all. My body needed complete rest but rather than understand, I felt judged by my fitness tracker that kept telling me to “get up and move”, “your step count is low” .. and on .. and on .. and into the drawer it went and has remained since.

In the last few months I missed my tracker but dammit it had crossed a line of zero compassion so I went in search of another .. and found this beauty.

Let’s be honest, if it’s not pretty I’m probably not interested .. this is pretty and so much more!

Habits are achievable when they are obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying according to Atomic Habits @jamesclear. My @whoop ticks all these boxes.

This is pretty but also super scientific - it analyses my sleep, recovery, cycle, stress and strain. It records my heartbeat and, with this, it magically knows when my body needs rest, or is ready to be put under strain, it encourages recovery, and knows I am run down before I do. When my numbers were on the floor recently, a positive COVID test the following day was no surprise.

I am a fan of discipline and motivation, but only when served with compassion and encouragement.

Do you whoop?

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This is our situation for the past month. A camp bed at the end of our bed. An extra little person in our room.

Simply put there are times when our children just need us that bit more.

No different from how, at times, we all just need that bit more.

It is only when we pathologise their needs; fear the uncertainty of change, become impatient with wanting things to go back to ‘normal’, wish they didn’t get knocked so easily, resent them taking our space, personalise what their behaviour says about our own parenting that we come away from attending to what they need.

When we can give freely to our children, when we ourselves are given what we need freely by others, when we give ourselves what we need freely, without judgement, expectation or impatience, we breathe more easily, we rebalance, and in that gentle space we find our strength and self again.

This is not how it will always be - but for now, we are here.

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I need the sea because it teaches me .. Pablo Neruda

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I’ll always be a pen and paper planner .. and colours, highlighters, drawings, and more paper .. basically my approach to work was formed in junior infants when I found a formula I liked and I’m sticking with it 📝

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A few years ago I never thought I would be sharing my proudly sober podcast.

First I had to decide to live alcohol free - and that decision started creeping in years, in fact, decades ago. But finally I decided.

Then the challenge was to accept sobriety as the way I want to be. I had no idea what that would look like but I was tired of my relationship with alcohol.

Finally, when I felt ready, it was to open up and chat to others about my love of sober living.

Sobriety is a funny one … undeniably a healthy way to live, and yet still often associated with shame and negativity.

I’m hoping this might help dispel some of those nonsense beliefs and maybe encourage someone else to give it a go.

Link copied below 👇🏻

Thanks again to Jim Kealy @southeastradio for having me on to talk about sober living.

My 28-day Sober Reset starts Monday 4th September. Drop me a DM if you are interested 💫

"I suppose I was always waiting for something remarkable – for that rock bottom, that feeling that alcohol was controlling me, the shame of mistake upon mistake, or, worse, hurting my family and those around me. If something remarkable like that had happened, I would have known to stop. But it didn’t, so I continued drinking, unremarkably."

For my full blog post click here - https://www.christinedoyle.ie/1000-days-sober/

If this is something that resonates with you and you have been looking to try a sober reset, my 28-Day Sober Reset starts on 4 September. Click here to sign up - https://www.christinedoyle.ie/self-paced/

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#selfcompassion #clarity